Even though the internet has eaten into their popularity, the gay bar will always be a gathering place for celebration, comfort, and community. But more and more these sanctuaries are being invaded by the world we’ve come to escape, the straight world. Even worse are the frequent assaults by drunken, out of control, marauding bands of women known as the bachelorette party.
In an article from the Huffington Post, RuPaul recently took the subject of “treating gay people as accessories to straight life” head on.
“Check yourself before you wreck yourself,” Ru says, adding: “You know, this is an important thing: People who live in the mainstream and the status quo think that everyone else is there to serve them.”
While straight, cisgender people are of course welcome in LGBTQ spaces, it’s important to be aware of what these spaces represent to those in the community and a straight person’s relationship to them.”
From VICE.com comes this post entitled, “No Girls Allowed” which puts a fine point on the subject.
“Ladies, we don’t mind going to your bachelorette parties, because we love and support you as friends even if we find it a little insulting (and genitally incorrect) that you keep calling us “one of the girls.” However, if we don’t know you, we have no interest in being at your party. That means keep them out of gay bars.
To you it might be one night of misbehaving, but this is our life. Please respect that, and take your high-decibel revelry somewhere that will cater to your “big day.”